Taking the good with the bad!

I was tooling along thinking I was being a good boyfriend when all of a sudden....BAM!!! My girlfriend was as mad as all hell. What in the world did I do? She took a week off from her work and it just was not the staycation either of us had wanted. She was having a bad time of it every which way she turned. I thought I was being supportive but by the end of the week I just wanted a break from it all. My truck broke and I had to get it repaired to the tune of $1600 that I just didn't have. We have faced one financial blow after another but this was just out of my reach. Thanks to some extremely good people I was able to come up with the money to be paid back over a period of time.

The fight was so bad I just got in my truck, drove to an undisclosed secret spot, parked and thought things through the best I could. After sitting alone in the dark listening to the night life around me for awhile I went back home to talk with her. Lucky for me there is only one thing that drives her insane....care to guess? She is a woman after all...oops, probably shouldn't say that but I think it will be okay once I tell you the one thing. All she wants and all women want it, is for us guys to listen. They need to know they are really being heard. I really wish that it was enough for me to listen from now on but I am a guy after all. Hell, I got it so bad that this is not the first argument we have had all because I did not listen. I would like to say I have got it now but I know I don't.

So the good thing is that she loves me and is very forgiving in the end. We both look at the importance of the bigger picture and that is what is important in the end. We find that love is not a feeling but rather a commitment. A commitment to do what we can to support each other, forgive our (my) dumb ass mistakes, honor and respect one another, to not worry about the argument. To have it and move on to hopefully not have the same one twice...okay three times.

We both feel that love is not a reason to get married. In fact it is a celebration of a commitment that does not need a ring, a license, or a wedding. In the end I am happy to be with her and nothing is more important than that.

I had hoped to share some about my recent fishing trip but that will have to wait til next time..... all have a great time and recognize what is most important in your lives. Meanwhile, I will be taking the good with the not so good.